Teaching Children To Value Friendship

“I don’t believe I have ever met a parent who did not on some level yearn for the ability to hand pick his for her children’s friends. Parents often find themselves comforting their children, drying tears of frustrations or anger caused by the slings and arrows of outrageous friendships, and wondering whether there will ever …

The Self-esteem Checklist

“Parents have a lot to worry about. How to keep their kids safe when they are out of sight? How to keep them away from the negative influences of peers, movies, competing ethics and values that vie for their attention nearly every day? And frequently parents ask me, “How can I know that the kind …

The Father Behind the Mask

My father was always the strong, silent type. When I was a child, I used to think that he was unusual, and I imagined that other kid’s fathers must be different, more talkative, more open with their emotions, less silent and controlled than my dad. Of course, I was wrong. The more I saw how …

Lekh Lekha (Genesis 12:1-17:27)

My daughter is turning twenty-one this month, and it’s got me thinking a lot about the meaning we attach to different ages. Seems like this passage to adulthood ought to carry with it certain increased personal and communal responsibilities. Or perhaps, this time of transition from “pre-adulthood” to full membership in the adult community should …

Vayera (Genesis 18:1-22:24)

Last week as I sat working in my study at the synagogue my daughter Gable called from the youth lounge (where she was working that day watching the kids) and with a worried tone told me that one of the kids who was hanging out in the lounge had mentioned that his grandmother was just …

Bereshit 2006 (Genesis 1:1-6:8)

Every culture, every religion, every civilization has its own “creation story.” Ever since there have been human beings on the earth, we have wrestled with the fundamental questions of life, struggled to come up with a compelling narrative that will explain adequately to ourselves and our children where the world itself came from and what …

Nitzavim (Deuteronomy 22:9-30:20)

I was startled out of my sleep at 6:15 AM Tuesday morning by a phone call from my daughter, Gable, who is living just a ten-minute walk from the World Trade Center in New York. “Oh my God,” she cried into the phone, “I’ve just witnessed the most horrible scene of my life.” With those …

Ki Tavo (Deuteronomy 26:1-29:8)

This week’s Torah portion is every rabbi’s dream – particularly at this time of year. Because every year as the High Holy Days grow near, almost every rabbi I know struggles with the spiritual dilemma of whether or not to use this rare opportunity when almost the entire congregation stands before them, to openly solicit …

Ki Tetze (Deuteronomy 21:10-25:19)

When we are lucky, there are unexpected moments in life that suddenly present us with the opportunity to find out who we really are. This week was such a moment for 22-year-old Ascension Franco Gonzales, an undocumented immigrant from Mexico who came to this country from Hidalgo with one goal in mind: to send back …

Shoftim (Deuteronomy 16:18-21:19)

We have begun the month of Elul and I can feel the spiritual pressure building already. Traditional Jews go to synagogue every day to pray, and every day they hear the sound of the shofar reminding them that this entire month leading up to Rosh Hashana and the ushering in of the most sacred season …

Re’eh2 (Deuteronomy 11:26-16:17)

I just got back last week from an adventure tour of Costa Rica that I took with my wife, Didi and my daughter, Gable. Over an intense four day period we crossed the country challenging the elements and stretching our own boundaries -flying a tiny plane to the Nicaraguan border; traveling in a small motor …

Re’eh (Deuteronomy 11:26-16:17)

This week we discover one of the most powerful Biblical lessons in personal motivation and success ever written. It is also the source for the idea known as “free will.” God tells us, at the very beginning of the portion, “See I set before you blessing and curse – blessing if you obey the commandments …

Ekev (Deuteronomy 7:12-11:25)

Sometimes all of life seems like a test. Friendships drift away, loved ones die, we find ourselves fighting a serious illness or falling victim to corporate “downsizing” and either having our salaries cut or losing our jobs altogether. It’s remarkable how quickly even the most positive of people can suddenly find themselves haunted by questions …

Vaetkhanan (Deuteronomy 3:23-7:11)

If the entire Torah consisted of only this week’s portion, we would have all that is necessary to learn the most important spiritual and ethical laws of the entire Torah. For this week we are presented once again with the entire Ten Commandments (with a couple of slight changes from the original in Exodus) along …